I was a stranger and you welcomed me!
by Janet Gildea
Recently I spent the
night with the Sisters of Charity of St. Elizabeth at their convent in downtown
Newark, N.J. They have offered me hospitality on several occasions when I have
been coming or going to their retreat house, Maris Stella, on the Jersey shore
some two hours away. Living just five minutes from the Newark airport, they are
accustomed to visitors like me, in and out with barely time for conversation in
the community room.
The night I arrived I
was shown to my bedroom at the end of the second floor. As I pulled my suitcase
into the old-style convent room, complete with tiny antique sink and medicine
cabinet, Sr. Ellen remarked quietly, “A woman from Sudan is staying in the room
across the hall.” Then as we walked back towards the community room she noted
another closed bedroom door and said, “Oh, someone else must be visiting . . .
.”
We greeted the group
gathered in the living room of the house, with its array of standard-issue
recliners oriented in the general direction of the television. One sister was
working on her laptop, another reading on her tablet and a third was
intermittently watching an episode of NCIS. The fourth sister was working with
a woman attired in a bright orange and brown print wrap. She looked up shyly
from her notebook as we entered the room. Ellen said, “I think you know
everyone except Soraya* who is staying with us. She is from Sudan and she is
studying English with Sr. Mary Walter.” By that time Mary had scooted to a
straight backed chair and she motioned for Soraya to come with her notebook and
pencil to where the light was better, vacating a recliner for me.
Ellen inquired about
the additional house guest. The others reminded her of the call she had
received a few days earlier from a sister from another congregation in Florida.
She was flying in for the wake and funeral of Fr. Benedict Groeschel, founder
of the Franciscan Friars of the Renewal. One of their sisters had suggested
that she call the Newark convent for hospitality.
“Oh, that’s right!”
No wonder Ellen didn’t
remember. That was many days and several guests ago.
“You’re always
welcome! Have a good trip, and we look forward to seeing you the next time
you’re passing through.”
Ellen and I agreed
upon the early departure rendezvous and I was off to bed, all the while
reflecting on the ease with which these religious women welcome the stranger
into their home.
In the early morning
darkness as we loaded my things in the car I asked Ellen about Soraya and how
they had made a connection with her. Like many congregations of women
religious, the Sisters of Charity of St. Elizabeth had made a public statement
in support of immigration reform many years ago.
“We wanted to make it
more than just words, so when the organization First Friends was looking for
places to offer hospitality to women awaiting rulings on their asylum petitions
we decided that was something we could do.”
Soraya was a teacher and
human rights activist in Sudan. Three of her siblings had been killed. After
she gave a presentation at the United Nations, she began receiving death
threats. She sought asylum in the U.S., leaving seven children in the care of
her sister.
“Sometimes she is so
distraught because she’s never sure exactly where they are. Sometimes they
don’t have food to eat.”
She has lived with the
sisters since August and hopes, when her English improves, to be able to get a
job in the housekeeping department of a hotel or hospital.
A lament arose within
me as I considered our government’s inaction on immigration reform and the
violent conflicts displacing people around the globe from their homes and
families. How very difficult is the life of the refugee! Immediately another
thought brought me consolation. One woman has found a safe harbor and a place
of welcome with the Sisters of Charity of St. Elizabeth. They are living up to
their name every day. They, too, are as blessed as their recently beatified Sr.
Miriam Teresa. “Come, you blessed by my Father, for I was a stranger and you
welcomed me . . . .”
*not her actual name
[Sr. Janet Gildea is a
Sister of Charity of Cincinnati. A retired family physician, she now serves
with her sisters at Proyecto Santo Niño, a day program for children with
special needs in Anapra, Mexico, as well as ministering with young adults in
the Diocese of El Paso, Texas.]